A man has come under fire after confessing he was “livid” with his wife for not cleaning their house before he brought friends home from work.
Together they share three kids and his wife stay’s home to take care of them while he goes to work. Since all of the children are young and messy, they’d come to an agreement that the house only needed to be kept tidy when either of them were expecting guests.
“The other day I brought over some friends from work and when I opened the door all I could see was an utter mess – food and toys and clutter everywhere. I was shocked I was embarrassed and just mortified that my friends saw my home looking like this,” he wrote on Reddit’s AITA forum.
“A couple of the guys had never been to our home before, so the first impression must’ve been horrible to them. I took the guests into the least messy part of the house and my friends kept giving me weird looks and making indirect comments about the state of home.”
He continued: “I was livid. I waited until they left then went into the bedroom to see that my wife was actually sleeping. I woke her up to ask why she didn’t tidy up the house knowing I was going to bring friends over. She said she didn’t know but I sent her a text letting her know and she said she didn’t see it.
I told her it seemed like she did see the text but decided to ignore it? She said no but she wasn’t feeling well and had a headache so she thought of getting an hour long nap. I told her that it was so, so embarrassing that the house looked like this when my friends came over and that this was avoidable had she cleaned up and prepared the house for the guests.”
The man’s wife argued that it was the kids making all the mess, not her, and reiterated that he should’ve double-checked she’d actually received the message and that the house would be ready for guests before just turning up.
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“I thought that was ridiculous because she was basically blaming me for her own actions (or lack of) which I didn’t appreciate so much. I told her it was embarrassing and yes she gets part of the blame for the house looking like a complete mess and being out of control like that,” he continued.
“She called me a jerk then walked out of the room and avoided speaking to me about it insisting that I’m the one at fault in this situation.”
The man then turned to Reddit to question whether he was in the wrong to be so mad at his wife and as it turns out, pretty much everyone sided with his wife.
“You basically sprung this upon her, didn’t check to see if she happened to see the one text where you just casually decided to spontaneously bring home people that day, and showed literally zero care that she wasn’t feeling well,” one Reddit user commented.
“SAHM stands for stay at home mom, not stay at home maid. Her priority is the children. Not to be on call to make the house look unrealistically tidy in an hour’s time.”
Another added: “Seriously, dude? If you want her to clean up for guests, you give her at least 24 hours notice the guests are coming. Better yet, you spend the evening before helping her tidy. You don’t just assume she’s up for last-minute company, let alone that she’s got the time and bandwidth to prepare for them.
“And you certainly don’t continue to whine about how ’embarrassed’ you are over the entirely foreseeable consequence of your own failure to plan ahead when she tells you she’s not feeling well.”
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