Relationships are complicated, but sadly, they can be especially complicated when exes and late partners are involved.
This is something one man knows all too well, after finding himself in a relatively new relationship, following the death of his wife and the mother of his children, five years ago.
A year ago, the 33-year-old decided he was finally ready to re-enter the world of dating after realising his two children were keen to have another parenting figure in their lives, which is when he met Anna.
“She is amazing and I love her, but I will never love her as much as I loved my late wife,” the man explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
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“My kids were very sad about their mother that day, I don’t know why, but they were. Anna happened to be there, and one of my kids asked, ‘Do you love Anna or Mom more?’ I said, ‘I love Anna, but Mom will always be the love of my life.’
“After this, Anna confronted me and said that she was mad that I loved my late wife more than her. She took it as she was second choice to my late wife. I told her that I love her, but she was still p****d.”
He added: “I’m in a new stage of life now, but it doesn’t erase the love I had for her.”
The man then turned to Reddit to question whether he was wrong for admitting he would never love his current partner as much as his late wife, and the majority of people agreed that he was.
One Redditor commented: “It doesn’t seem like you are able to get back to the dating pool. You clearly have unresolved feelings towards your deceased wife and you have to process them in order to move on. That was crude to mention to Anna.”
“You can love different people in different ways, without loving one more than the other. And you could have explained things to your kids as such – for example, do you love one kid more than the other?” another added. “If you love your deceased wife more than your current wife, perhaps it wasn’t the right decision to get married.”
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